I don't think sleep training is for Ella. I guess she is getting better with times but she is crying the entire time a lot more lately.
Oh the 18th she fell asleep on me early and it took 22 minutes on the 19th (or 20 but then she woke herself back up then back to sleep. Crying stopped around 18 min.) Sometimes I wish I documented when crying stopped versus just when she went to sleep.
I posted before about sleep training. We still have not done it where she got milk from a cup versus from nursing before going to bed. I've only put her in the crib awake a few times for naps.
She's had quite a few milestones the past 1.5 months of this and I know I always hear with each milestone sleep is affected.
Since we started her crib has been lowered twice. She has also learned how to go from lying to sitting. She learned how to pull herself up to standing. She also started army crawling and then crawling with her belly off the ground. (She barely crawls with her belly off the ground but she is getting better.)
I'm certain the data would be different if I didn't have a camera where I could watch her move even if she wasn't crying. Her data would look better. I kind of hate the data but don't know what to do. I want her to be able to sleep. I hate to hear her cry. When I work with her to go to sleep at night it definitely took longer than when she sits by herself. Some nights here she falls asleep on me and some times before she would do that initially.
How do you get your child to sleep or how did you if your children are grown? Did you keep track of anything like I do above?
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Of course I didn't keep track of your crying. I still laugh about your dad's charts for my labor pains (which I still have) and his diaper charts (commonly called poop charts). You are your dad's girl.
ReplyDeleteBe consistent. If Ella thinks that crying will get you to come in, she'll keep crying. She's a smart girl.
We are consistent. The only time we came in in the past month was when she was about to crawl out of the crib. Then we lowered it and did a little repeat of tr routine then she was in the crib. But I think her crying is worse so it's no good.
DeleteI think do what works. If there's one thing I've learned over the years, it's that everything is a phase. Everything. People can talk about how awful it is to put their kid down while already asleep, or how this or that is setting the kid up to be a "bad sleeper", but honestly everything is just going to change the older they get anyway. If you want her to be a better sleeper and to go down easier, then awesome. But if you're only training her because you think that's what you should do based on what others say, then I say don't worry about it. You do what works for you and your family, and don't let others sway your judgement. Hope this helps!
ReplyDeleteThe main reason I was putting her down awake is because when I am not around it is the most awful thing ever for whoever else is here. Dave can never get her to sleep. Also this means we don't get a sitter for any reason at all. So that was my reasoning behind it. But since going to sleep after nursing seems so awful (to me) I haven't even tried to make Dave just give her a cup of milk at night before going into the crib. I think that's the next step before I'd be comfortable ever going anywhere. But sometimes you just don't know which is why I was starting this. Like when I had to have surgery. That was not planned and it wasn't like I was away for fun but I had to be away. That was a very long 9 am until 3 PM for Dave. (or was it 8 AM? I already forget.)
DeleteI should also clarify in my post how some days I put her in and she cries for all of 3 seconds until I leave the room and then no tears at all but I can tell she is moving so then she doesn't go to sleep for 10-20 minutes. My table doesn't differentiate between crying and just being awake. The last 3 days were crying though which is what prompted my post and thinking it's not working... Then I checked my notes and the previous few days were only 5 seconds of crying. I guess going from no crying to crying make it worse for me.
People talk about how awful it is to put your kid down while asleep. Other people talk about how awful it is to put your kid down awake and have them cry.
DeletePeople talk about how awful it is to even have your baby sleep in a different room. Other people talk about how awful cosleeping is.
You see the theme going on here?
I think your reasoning for wanting to train her makes total sense and I'm glad you're doing it for your own reasons and not because of others opinions. You are so right people will always find something wrong with whatever it is you do. My main point is that no matter what you do, your kids are just going to keep changing it up on you anyway. I used to worry so much about Parker's sleep habits, and now I really see how it was all wasted because I know in the end he's a fine sleeper. And I think that's true for most kids.
DeleteI was even telling one mom my reasoning for why we started sleep training and she commented that people don't usually do it for that reason. Oh well. Whatever reasons.
DeleteYou know one awesome thing about the mom group I belong to is that I have never heard criticism for any way of parenting. We all know there are different ways. We sometimes share how we did things in discussion but nobody is ever critical of each other. Probably why I love it!
David slept through the night at 3 months ONCE, and at about 9 months, I started putting him to bed at 8PM, He cried for awhile. I didn't keep track, Just knew he would get used to it, snd of course he did. It was hard at first, to hear him cry himself to sleep. This was 29 years ago, NO technology like we have now obviously.
DeleteBy a year old he was sleeping through the night from 8pm until 7am. PLUS a nice afternoon nap! We didn't have cribs that lowered back then. It was the stone age comparatively,
but we got the job done anyway! HE CLIMBED OUT OF HIS CRIB AT 14 MONTHS OLD! unscathed, he appeared at the bedside, "Hi Ma, I Hun-gee"..He wanted food, He got it.! LOL:)
David slept through the night at 3 months ONCE, and at about 9 months, I started putting him to bed at 8PM, He cried for awhile. I didn't keep track, Just knew he would get used to it, snd of course he did. It was hard at first, to hear him cry himself to sleep. This was 29 years ago, NO technology like we have now obviously.
DeleteBy a year old he was sleeping through the night from 8pm until 7am. PLUS a nice afternoon nap! We didn't have cribs that lowered back then. It was the stone age comparatively,
but we got the job done anyway! HE CLIMBED OUT OF HIS CRIB AT 14 MONTHS OLD! unscathed, he appeared at the bedside, "Hi Ma, I Hun-gee"..He wanted food, He got it.! LOL:)